To develop an orientation of focusing on the best in yourself and others, notice the instances when you see the negative in a person or situation. In response to that awareness, see if you can understand your investment in seeing it that way. Then, see if you can let it go, at least just this once, and switch to the positive. Watch yourself doing this. Hopefully with a smile. And if there is resistance… stay present and simply notice. Be the witness of this attachment to negativity rather than fusing with the part of you which is being negative. Allow yourself to learn who this part of you is and what this part needs.
Whether you can do this or not, strive to stay awake and simply be patient with yourself. Self-discovery is the best foundation for self-improvement.
Copyright © 2014 Jim Lehrman