Please use the same 1 (low) to 5 (high) scale, but this time, use a “6” if you are feeling fulfilled rather than just satisfied. Again, score for yourself in the first column and then score for your view of how your partner would score that statement in the second column.
COOPERATION
___ ___ I am satisfied with our collective relationship skills
___ ___ I am satisfied with our collective negotiating skills
___ ___ I am satisfied with our ability to disagree agreeably
___ ___ I am satisfied with the way we deal with conflict
COMPATIBILITY
___ ___ I am satisfied with the commonality of our values
___ ___ I am satisfied with how we collectively manage money
___ ___ I am satisfied with the personality, habits and lifestyle of my partner
___ ___ I am satisfied with participating in the activities that my partner enjoys
___ ___ I am satisfied with how we express our spirituality
___ ___ I am satisfied with the quality and frequency of the conversations we have
___ ___ I am satisfied with the feeling that our love is growing
___ ___ I am satisfied with how little I have to give up of myself to be loved by my partner
___ ___ I am satisfied with our movement through deepening stages in developing our long term relationship
INTIMACY
___ ___ I am satisfied with our conversational intimacy
___ ___ I am satisfied with how easily we can share our positive and negative feelings with each other
___ ___ I am satisfied with how easy it is for us to talk about problems in our relationship
___ ___ I am satisfied with the results of our problem-solving discussions
___ ___ I am satisfied with our physical intimacy
___ ___ I am satisfied with our sexual intimacy
___ ___ I am satisfied with the extent to which we play together and the way we play together
___ ___ I am satisfied with my experience of romance
EMOTIONAL SUPPORT
___ ___ I am satisfied with the level of nurturance and support we have
___ ___ I am satisfied with how we are able to give and receive strokes
___ ___ I am satisfied with my partner’s listening skills
___ ___ I am satisfied with my partner’s empathy
___ ___ I am satisfied with the balance of how much time we spend together and separate
___ ___ I am satisfied with how my partner responds when I communicate that I’m feeling distant or out of love
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