HAVING SPENT my life paying attention to the mechanics of how we humans put together our experience and lose ourselves in it, I’ve spent the past couple decades training people how to develop a more conscious relationship with how they organize their experience in the moment. My goal is to help people create a more constructive and rich experience for themselves and others, in order to create a life that is stimulating, relationships that are mutually fulfilling, and a world that is improving. This path takes you beyond your own psychology and gives you a freedom beyond happiness.
As a mentor and coach, I teach how to slow down, pay attention, make a choice, and exercise control. I teach ways to nurture and indulge curiosity; how to embrace responsibility as a spiritual discipline. And how to let in what is there to experience. To facilitate this I create a safe container in which you can share and be heard and understood. Whether working in person or on the phone, I will listen deeply and engage thoroughly in what you need to share, yet my work is highly experiential. I will ground you with tools of perception that enable you to notice the subtle indications that you’re getting triggered, that some part of you rooted in archaic beliefs is running the show, or that you’re about to get lost in your story.
While I listen to the story, I listen more closely to the story teller. My own attention is on tracking the interweaving of dissociation and presence, of trance and awareness. I teach how to separate from your experience in order to paradoxically be present enough to really have your experience. You’ll learn how to notice and respond to the subtle in-the-moment signs of age regression, projections, and other trance elements and unconscious defense mechanisms.
I give my clients much practice using tools which help them be present, congruent to their values, and effective in choice-making and follow through, but on a fundamental level, relationship is what I teach. Relationship is the source for all learning about self. Given that your identity is defined by the relationships you have and, in turn, your relationships take the shape they do because of your identity, my work starts with making the relationship with yourself very conscious.
I also love working with couples, families, business partners, and creative collaborators. These people benefit tremendously when they learn how their experience is formed by the relationship they have with themselves – and learn to apply themselves to that awareness consciously in alignment with their shared values and vision. My work brings attention to the structure of experience, which enables my clients to discern substance from style, and story from structure; which, in turn, gives relationships more integrity.
Connson Locke, PhD
We all live in our experience, and it’s a beautiful thing to share experience with others. Being able to relax your resistance to having experience deepens your relationship to life and your relationship to others. Mindfulness is the training that enables you to be this present with yourself and others. It’s all about mechanics – the mechanics of the moment. People say the devil is in the details. I say pay attention and you get what you pay for.