Success Stories...
"I deeply appreciate Jim's gentle, healing manner. I like his insight and helpfulness when he is working with people."
Ken Keyes, Jr., author: "Handbook To Higher Consciousness"
"I cannot put in words how much I appreciate the help I have received from Jim over the course of almost 20 years. His insight, compassion, wisdom, and humor have all helped me to overcome obstacles to personal growth and fulfillment and guided me through many tough times, showing me how to make the best of everything. He continues to teach me how to use mindfulness to turn my inner gremlins into allies, enabling me to grow up, get out of my own way, enjoy my humanity, and make every moment of this precious life matter. I feel the deepest gratitude for the opportunity to have him as my mentor on this life's journey. Namaste"
Don Matesz, L.Ac., Phoenix, AZ
"We have been working with Jim for personal and business coaching for over three years. He adds value in many different areas, and has been of great help in our inter-country moves, career-changes, starting our own businesses, and other life-changing decisions. We would recommend him for all of your coaching needs."
Ray and Marianne Hyland, British Columbia, Canada
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From Mechanics to Meaning
Some people mumble or talk too quietly for the listener to hear what they’re trying to get across. While this is obviously not an effective way to communicate, some people do it routinely and often unconsciously.
It’s good to remember that communication is in what is received, not in what is transmitted. It’s also good to remember that communication is one of the easiest places to measure power. Listen with that in mind. Some people communicate in ways that show them to have too little power while some people show themselves to inappropriately use too much power. Effective communicators inspire with their balanced and responsive use of power. That power translates into having a strong influence on the flow of the conversation and being listened to well.
In communicating verbally with someone, strive to be heard effectively. Now, that is such simple and even superficial advice but let me share a secret. It’s magic. Here’s how:
If you can hold and sustain the intention to consciously speak in such a way that your listener can hear and understand every syllable of every word, and you can consciously hold yourself accountable to live up to carrying out that intention every time you speak, you will find that you will soon start to think in more effective ways about what specific words to use to most accurately convey the meaning you want to get across. That’s power. Thus, by putting your attention on the mechanics of speaking, you will magically evolve your consciousness to have more alignment between what you want to say and what the other person understands. This is a path towards graciously strengthening your power. And as your power grows this way, you will be less inclined to give your power away by being non-assertive, co-dependent, vague about your needs, or being unconscious enough to be played for a sucker by the less scrupulous people in your world.
Improve what you can improve in yourself – that is, what is in your control – and who you are in the world evolves in ways that seem unrelated to what you improved.
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Making the Moment Matter...
There is no escaping having “a story”. It’s what sustains our myth of a consistent identity from one moment to the next, enabling us to pay our bills and brush our teeth. A goal of my work is to give you the understanding and tools to locate yourself outside your story, from where you can have better perspective, respond more effectively, and experience the joy of freedom. Just because ‘all God’s chillun’ gotta have a story doesn’t mean you have to be lost in yours.
To help people get beyond their stories and become their own therapists, I created Making the Moment Matter and authored its accompanying workbook in 1994. Since then the program has helped people from many stages of life get bigger than whatever the universe throws their way. I am currently finishing up the book, "Making the Moment Matter; An Introduction to the Alchemy of Experience".
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